We also have two bio children and I was nursing my younger son until March this year. We are not infertile, but have very difficult pg's. It took a lot of convincing for my husband to concider adoption, but now he's reallly excited about it. I'm doing the regular protocol now.
When you said you've had failed adoptions, are these moms who changed their minds about adoption and decided to parent?

Yes, the birthmoms decided to parent in most cases. Another one, the agency grew very suspicious of b/c bmom seemed "in it for the money" so they released her, and this past one we were chosen but the cost of the case was phenominally expensive and we just couldn't afford it.
We have been "shown" over 25 times!!!!! The times we were not chosen the bmom stated they wanted someone w/out kids or w/out bio kids OR they wanted someone who lived near TX to facilitate a more open adoption.
I, too, had very difficult pg's but b/c of all this waiting have been ttc for the past 7 months....whichever comes 1st, comes 1st we guess.
How is the protocol going for you? Any breast changes?
My youngest is VERY close to being fully weaned. I have been breastfeeding non-stop for 7+ years now and am so curious to find out what the protocol will be like! I've taken the dom...so, I know that it works, just not with the bcp prior to pumping.
I hope my scenario isn't too discouraging. Ours is not the typical scenario. How are you feeling today? Mondays are difficult for me b/c I have the whole week ahead of me, waiting for "the call", then weekends I can relax b/c they don't call on weekends!
Warmly,
Mindy

I'm doing okay today, thanks <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I can't believe your profile has been shown 25 times! I makes me a bit apprehensive because our situations are so similar. If I were a BM, I'd want my child to have siblings, but I guess not everyone does. A friend of mine who adopted her first child is now going to adopt a girl from Guatemala because they just kept waiting and waiting at the agency they adopted at before.
I also understand what you said about TTC and going with which ever works first. Over the last week, I've been researching controlling hyperemysis gravidarum (lots and lots of throwing up!!!) with Marinol, an anti-nausea medication that is one of the ingredients in Marijuana, vasectomy reversal, and sperm gender sorting. I would love to adopt, but I'm starting to think it's not going to happen.
We've looking internationally, but because my hubby has to give six months notice for any time off, we can't travel with even 4-6 weeks notice.
As for breast changes, I've been taking Dom and Jasmin for about 1 1/2 weeks (after taking dom and Ovcon 35 for about 1 1/2 months) and finally having significant breast changes (yeah!!!). How about you? Are you planning to continue lactation after your nursing is weaned?

Have you looked into Zofram for the HG? It is a powerful anti-nausea drug usually used for chemo patients. It'll be my first course if I ever get pg. Regarding the sperm gender sorting, I am assuming you have 2 bios of the same gender. We have 2 amazing sons, and are waiting for "our daughter". We looked into oversea, specifically China to adopt a girl but it was WAY too expensive for us and the babies are usually 6-8 months old, and I want to nurse so badly. It has been and continues to be such a way of life and attachmnet parenting for us. I know I could nurse an older baby with some effort, but combined with the cost/travel...it's just not for us.
So, your agency is allowing you to speciafy gender? Have you already invested considerable money toward the adoption? I ask, b/c we have (about $16K, so far) and we feel stuck....we can't afford any other agencies or any other options (IVF, etc).
Yes, we were shown over 25 times. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Talk about depression. Are we really "that bad?" I would think Bmoms would want siblings too. But, I also understand them wanting to give to someone who can't have/don't have children. Both ways of looking at it make sense to me.
Did the agency give you an estimated wait time?

About the Yasmin vs Ortho 1/35....I keep reading posts that say they started with the Ortho, but only got signif breast changes with the Yasmin. Lenore, if you are reading this, which one is the recommended first course? Any one else have the same response to Yasmin over Ortho 1/35?
Mamapersoff, wish we could chat by phone! Is there a way to exchange #s not published on the site?
Warmly,
Mindy

You can exchange your phone numbers with the private message feature. Click on the persons name and it will give you an option to send a private message. If you receive a private message it is an envelope that flashes near your name up top. Just click on that to open up your message center.

LOL! Funny you should ask about Zofran :0) Yes, in my second pg, I used the max dose of Zofran ($$$$) and had virtually no improvement :0(
If I could talk hubby into another pg (fat chance) I might think of trying Marinol, which is an excellent anti-nauseant derived from Marajuana. So you have less nausea and the munchies... Perfect!

We have been waiting since May as well. It is very hard to sit and be patient when what you really want is minute-by-minute updates and detailed explanations as to why you haven't been chosen yet.
We know a couple who began waiting about a month after us. They waited approximately three weeks for a match.
It has been so, so hard to wait, all the while thinking: If we were "as good" as them, we'd have a child now. If we were more religious, richer, had a bigger house, were cuter, or just different in some way, we'd be picked by now.
We do not get notified if our profile is shown. So it may never have been shown, or it may have been passed over a dozen times. Not knowing makes me crazy. Every time I go back and look at our profile, I wonder if it is insufferably dorky or if it leaves out something important.
Every time I take my yasmin and dom, I wonder if I'm wasting time and effort (and dough).
Sorry to be Captain Bringdown. Anyway, I feel ya.

Hi guys,

Just wanted to say that we are in the same boat - and shirky, like you every time I take my protocol I wonder if I am wasting my efforts and my $$$. We are adopting internationally and what if our baby is too old to bf? sigh. Yup, this can be hard. I just had to buy another dose of the dom and bc, and i've decided that is we don't have a referral by the time this is done (one month) then I will stop and do advanced when we get a referral. It's werd because at first I felt like taking the meds were great because at least I was "doing something", now it reminds me all the time that I don't have a baby to nurse!

I also wanted to mention to the poster who said they aren't doing international because of the travel - Haiti is one of the least expensive/fastest wait times, and they will provide a caregiver to bring the baby to you...just some food for thought.

Thanks for sharing, everyone...