Lenore suggested that I post to ask you wonderful ladies for advice on adopting a baby. We are with a adoption agency that has a 2 year cap but the 2 years is running out fast with no luck at all. A little background: We tried the normal way for about 10 years with no luck. We also tried invitro 6 times with 2 miscarriages. We have had about 8 or so failed adoptions and also a surrogate that didn't work out. We are an older couple with one adopted daughter and would love to provide her with a brother or sister. I feel we are running out of time for this to happen for us. Any ideas or advice?
Carol1

Have you considered China?

I HAVEN'T, HEARD THERE WERE AGE LIMITATIONS. DO YOU
KNOW WHERE I COULD GET INFO? I HEARD ALSO THAT YOU HAVE TO GO TO CHINA FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS.

There are some age limits but they are well into your 40s maybe even upto 50 The only real limit is how many children you already have. They will not let you adopt if you have 5 children in your family. I have friends who have adopted twice from China. You do have to travel but it is only for 2 weeks I believe. I know my friend was not there much more than 2 weeks. You receive your child the day you get there or the day after and you travel in a group of people all receiving their children at the same time. You have an interpretor etc... I will get you more info if you are interested. These girls are in orphanages so you are matched with a child and that is the child you get. The adoptions don't fall through. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

That won't work for me as I am in my upper 50's and my husband is 51. Dang any other suggestions?
We only have one child at home so I am good there.

I will still check on the China thing as I am not sure on the age limits. People in other countries tend to be older parents more so than in the US. I will keep thinking of other options as well.

THANK YOU SO MUCH

I googled China adoption. The one I looked at said the max age was 55 but you could be eligible if one spouse was over 55.
I will find out who my friend went through.
This one I looked at was www.chinaadoption.org

I will check into this thank you again.

Just found this on an adoption website:

"Older persons, who may find domestic adoption presents too many hurdles due to the age factor, often turn to countries like Mexico, Russia, or Greece where the upper age limit is 60. Other countries, like Ukraine and Venezuela, have no statutory age limit; however, prospective adoptive parents are interviewed and their abilities to parent evaluated." Also I read that Ethiopia has no legal age limit, although generally places children with no more than 40 years between child and parent - would you be willing to consider an older child?

Hope this helps...

Yes, 0-5 tried in home state but nothing available in that age range. My daughter just turned 6 so would like one younger that her.
Thanks for the info.

Hello Carol1,

Keep your head up it will happen for you.....It is hard for me to say that b/c everyone kept telling me that and I was ready to scream!! We were with an agency for going on 4 yrs with NO luck what-so-ever. We had been throwing around the idea to get on Parent Profiles for 2 years and I was tired of waiting so I decided to go for it. We got on www.Parentprofiles.com on Feb. 27th (we were activated) and on March 30th our son's mother contacted us. She had our beautiful son on April 19th. Parent Profile was the best thing we ever did! I highly recommend them and as with everything else in this world you have to do your research on all the pbmom's and keep a cool head about it. We were contacted by 5 pbmom's after our son. One of those 5 pbmom's giving her baby to our very good friends that we got her in contact with. So we consider to be 2 in 2 on PP even though the second one is going to our very good friends!

Good luck and keep your chin up dear! Your baby is right around the corner.......Have faith in the Lord that he knows what he is doing!

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THANK YOU SO MUCH FO THE INFORMATION. I WILL GET ON THE WEB SITE AND CHECK THIS OUT.
I HAVE POSTED ON SURROMOMSONLINE WITH NO LUCK. SO YOU ADOPTED YOUR LITTLE FELLA, THAT IS ENCOURAGING, ADOPTION AGENCY ARE REALLY HAVING A HARD TIME GETTING BABIES.
iS THERE ANY ONE THERE THAT I SHOULD TALK TO? THANK YOU VERY MUCH

I couldn't wait so I went in and checked the web site. It looks encouraging people of all ages on there. The agency is out of Gilbert Arizona do you know if that is the only one?
What all did you have to do to get started? I am wondering if adopting from Parent Profile is different that regular adoptions.
Thanks so much again
Carol

Carol1,

Parent Profiles is basically an advertisement company for you....You set up all the information about yourself on their website and pay them a small fee and the girls directly contact you! The adoption procedure goes according to the law in the state that the bmom contacts you from. Parent Profiles is NOT an agency they are only a website to adverstise from and they are cheap and have MILLIONS of hits from people daily. In the 2 mos we were on it we had over 15,000 people look at our website..........and we had 6 bmom's contact us......the counter does not differentiate from regular people and bmom's looking at your website. So if you do go on with Parent Profiles I suggest that the only numbers you look at is when someone saves you to their favorites THEN that is when you could possibly have a birthmom!

Example: Our bmom contacted us from North Dakota. In ND the law is that you have to go through an agency to adopt from their state. So we had to find an agency that was feesable and get them to facilitate the adoption. If we were to get contacted by a bmom in SD the law is that you only need to have an attorney facilitate the adoption so the expense is way less. If you have any further questions you may contact me directly at SKnippling@midstatesd.net

Good luck!!
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