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[color:"purple"] Hello to all you lovely and friendly mamas!:0) I'm Crina, 28, married for 5 years to my beautiful husband. We've been through 2 miscarriages, and one failed adoption. No children as of yet. Planning to cloth diaper and bf when we do. I'm glad to "meet" you all.
I would love some advice. Here's my situation: I am talking with a pbmom who isn't certain of placing with us yet. <sigh> However, if she does choose us, she is due March 7th. She believes that she'll have the baby earlier than that.
I have not begun any protocols, nor do I possess any herbs, meds, or pumps besides the the Necon 35 bcp I take. (and zoloft, but that's another thread)
I have read so much stuff that I am dazed and confused. What do I need to do to get ready in 2 months for this baby? DO I follow the acc protocol?? And, if she doesn't choose us, then what? Also, how hard is it to find a donor in Ohio at the "last minute"?
So many questions...I apologize. Anyone with answers??
:0) Hugs,Crina [/color]
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Dear Crina,
Welcome on board! Glad to hear you are determined to breastfeed your baby when it comes.
There probably isn't any one right answer on what you should do while you don't know with any degree of certainty when that will be. At the end of the day it's your call, so these are just some very subjective ideas.
If you feel that there is a reasonably good chance that the lady in question will decide to place with you, you may want to start accelerated protocol asap. With two months or so you have just enough time, but none to lose. The details are all on this site and some of the US based members should be able to tell you about how to get the domperidone as fast as possible and whether your BCP is appropriate.
You would then start pumping in early February, by which time you are likely to have a much clearer idea on what is happening with your potential birthmother.
If you know by that time that she is not going to place with you, you could either simply stop the medication or stay on the protocol for several months more if you feel your chances of getting another baby within a reasonable time frame are good, and then start pumping once the baby is in sight.
A lot of women have gone on the protocols without any concrete prospect of a baby... not easy but it can be done.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do!
Love,
Chris
mom to Emma, born June 15th, 2004
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Hi Crina, Chris has given you excellent advice. The Necon 35 is one of the bcp that we recommend. All you need to do is add the domperidone and you're on your way to a milk supply. You can read and print out the guide to the protocols from this webpage: http://www.asklenore.info/breastfeeding/print/induced_lactation/protocols4print.htmlIf this birth mom decides to place with you, all you do is stay on the meds for a least 30 days and then stop the bcp, maintain the domperidone, add the herbs, and start pumping every 2-3 hours by day and once during the night. The longer you can do the meds the more milk you will have. So if this placement falls through, just stay on the meds until you have a baby in sight again. And remember, we're all here for you. Good luck!!! Hope this helps. Warmest regards,
Lenore Goldfarb, Ph.D.,CCC,IBCLC
Wife to Rob, Mom to Adam aged 13, and Ethan aged 9, both born via GS and breastfed via Regular Newman-Goldfarb Protocol.
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Thank you for the great advice. I appreciate it. One more question: how does one find a breastmilk donor, and how do you know that the milk is safe? (I hope that doesn't sound insulting at all)
Hugs,Crina
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The best person to help you to find a milk donor is Nona Davis....Nona?
Most of the donors she knows are surrogates who have been medically cleared. But you can ask for medicals tests (at your expense) if the mom is a birth mother with extra milk or you can pasteurize the milk at home.
Warmest regards,
Lenore Goldfarb, Ph.D.,CCC,IBCLC
Wife to Rob, Mom to Adam aged 13, and Ethan aged 9, both born via GS and breastfed via Regular Newman-Goldfarb Protocol.
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