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I totally understand Rochelle. Try to remember that she is hormonal as well so will get upset maybe more over small things that she wouldn't if she wasn't pregnant. I am sure she realizes you have helped her a lot.


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Well here's an update we were receiving an email a day and now nothing, her phone is still on and I left her a message but she's not returning phone calls or emails now so we have no communication now so we are just going to wait and see that's all we can do.


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I would make a trip to where she is. Knock on her door and talk to her face to face. Find out what is going on. You will definetly get a better feel for things if you do that.


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Thast's what I was thinking of doing, I did receive an email from her today, it seemed to be very sincere and it gave us some idea about what's going on but I think a visit is in order.


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Rochelle I hope everything works out. At least you heard from her and can proceed from here.


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Thanks everyone for there advise and support I could not have made it through this without you very sweet, loving, caring moms. I will be going to see her this Friday and she's just really having a hard time, she finally opened up to me about everything and it seems she's dealing with her mom who doesn't agree with the adoption and she will not help her anymore, her mother was the one who she would call for financial help when she needed it. So, because we care about her and her children we are going to see what we can do to make it just a little bit easier for her because she is so stressed out and she's scared she will deliver early and hurt the baby because of all the stress. We know we are taking a chance but if it were a stranger and we could help we would, God will continue to bless us either way. We prayed about it and this is the answer he gave us. Thanks again to everyone for just being there for me.


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Good luck to you!! Keep us updated. smile

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have you thought about bringing her and her kids to your place for a break? Our second adoption the BM lived with us for the last 3 months. I DO NOT recommend that. But a few weeks away with you might help her.


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I spoke with her about that and right now she's still working and her teenager works so she really can't leave.


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I can understand your being upset at possibly losing the baby. May I suggest you consider a longer view?

We are going through an adoption agency. We hope for an open adoption because we feel it will be best for OUR baby. My spiritual side says there is a reason why we need someone to make OUR baby for us. As a mom, my most important job is to protect MY child.

We've told the adoption agency we want a birth mom that does not bring drama and crisis into our life. We will (hopefully) have contact with the birth family for the rest of our lives. I don't want someone to tornado into my life, upset OUR baby, and leave again with the child just a little more injured by the action.

If this mom does not give you this baby, maybe it's because the baby that is meant for you is somewhere else. I feel for this child. No matter what the mom does, she is going to use that baby as a pawn forever. Is it possible you are not the only adoptive family she has "chosen?" Maybe there are other parents she's trying to milk for money as well.

The best thing you can do for this child (and yours if this isn't your child) is bring a sense of peace and calm into its world. The birth mom will do what she will do. There are some unhappy people in the world and it appears you've found one of them. I hope she finds some peace.

I hope my message helps you find a path to some peace in this difficult time.

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