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Hi! I just wanted to share and to know how the bfing is improving your relationship with your baby... I have no technical issues, just reflections on parenting, and bfing my adopted son.
Our son is now 8 months old, has now been with us for 4 months, bfed for 2 months up to now. We also have a 4 year old bio daughter, that was bfed fo 2.5 year. I'm sure that the bf contributed to our mutual attachment, I can really say now that he is my son! Before we had him, I knew I would love him, whoever he would be. But now, I can say I have a strong relationship with him. There is no best point of view on a breastfeeding baby than from a mother's eye, you cannot not fall in love! I would say that my relation with my 2 children are different, but not because they're adopted or bio, but rather because they are 2 different child - so different, but as different as any child could be. I hope this good start will help us build a lifelong healthy relationship!
What are your experiences? Do you have older adopted bfed children? Do they ask questions, do they remember?
Julie

Hi Jalx,

My children were both breastfeed following gestational surrogacy. My older son does not remember breastfeeding but knows he was breastfed and is proud of it. In 2002, during the dedication of the clinic that bears my name, I made a speech about the joy Adam brought to me and my husband and how thankful I was for him and he yelled out "you're welcome mommy'". He was at that time the age my younger son is now.

My younger son who is now just over 3, remembers breastfeeding and occasionally talks about it. For a while after he weaned he still wanted to "check them out" from time to time but he has now replaced this activity with "tummy to tummy" skin-to-skin sometimes when we cuddle in front of the TV to watch "Animal Planet" which is his favorite show.

I have to tell you, I would do it all over again in a second. Not because of my notoriety as the "milk supply queen" but because I wouldn't trade the breastfeeding experience I had with my children for anything.

No matter what I have done or continue to do in my lifetime, bringing my sons safely into the world and breastfeeding them are my greatest achievements.

best, Lenore

Thanks Lenore, I guess bfing goes so well I have time to think, and wonder about the future... ! It goes so well, my baby now refuses the bottle!...
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